As an eighteen year old girl on her way to college, she knew what she wanted, who she wanted to marry, how many kids she wanted to have by age 30 and where she would live. She knew she wanted someone who was raised just like her and a home in the country.
…had a plan and none of these things would become reality. She was looking for someone who was just like her, and today thirty-two years later, she is glad God interrupted that farm girl, bringing along a city boy who wasn’t like her at all. He would be her complement= would complete or make perfect. Now their life together has been far from perfect, but complete, yes.
In my opinion compatibility is overrated.
That’s not to say couples shouldn’t have things they like to do together, places they like to enjoy together, but after many years of marriage, Rob and I are still very different in how and where we were raised, the foods we like or don’t like, right down to what kind of peanut butter we like.
What has made our marriage complete and last is our mutual love for the Lord.
Grace has been a life long lesson that has made our life together sweeter as the days go by. Yes, my single friends,(and married) compatibility is important, but most important is can you stand side by side in your faith, walking in the same direction as a sojourner with the same destination? That is the question my friends, without God’s grace, mercy and love there is nothing.
But for right now, until that completeness, we have three things to do to lead us toward that consummation: Trust steadily in God, hope unswervingly, love extravagantly. And the best of the three is love. 1 Corinthians 13:13 The Message
Can you guess who likes chunky and who likes creamy peanut butter? You can read the rest of our story in my book, Confessions of A Farmer’s Daughter.
2017 I began the practice of focusing on a word for the month, writing it on an index card, keeping it before me each day. Days turn to weeks, weeks to months and months to years, looking back and not remembering where those simple joys of the day went. What were the simple joys of the weeks and months that got me up each morning? I needed a guide, a way to remember. Although this is not an original idea, I made it my own. You can read about the general idea at Ann Voscamp or Lore Wilbert at Sayable.
July…Do…pray more, listen more, speak more grace
- Pray the Scriptures for others. This is a practice I have done over the years. In order to pray the Scriptures I need to know them.
- Listen more, listen well, listen to understand, not listen to reply. Listening well is one of the hardest things to DO well. Listening well involves not rehearsing what your reply will be while the other person is talking.
- Pray without ceasing
- Speak healing words filled with grace, blessing and hope
August…LET GO: SURRENDER
- of my way
- of preconceived notions
- of expectations of what life should be
- …choose the good portion which will not be taken away from me (Luke 10:42) I want to be like Mary, choosing the good portion.
2. …carefully obey God’s voice( Exodus 23:22)
3. …make my fundamental aim in life to know Christ (John 17:3)
4. … trust God in the now, this season and what is in the forseeable future.(Psalm 62: 5-6)