Intersecting Life and Faith

Category: As The Parsonage Turns (Page 1 of 9)

The story of two ordinary people following God in ministry

Creamy or Chunky?

As an eighteen year old girl on her way to college, she knew what she wanted, who she wanted to marry, how many kids she wanted to have by age 30 and where she would live. She knew she wanted someone who was raised just like her and a home in the country.

But God….

…had a plan and none of these things would become reality. She was looking for someone who was just like her, and today thirty-two years later, she is glad God interrupted that farm girl, bringing along a city boy who wasn’t like her at all. He would be her complement= would complete or make perfect. Now their life together has been far from perfect, but complete, yes.

In my opinion compatibility is overrated.

That’s not to say couples shouldn’t have things they like to do together, places they like to enjoy together, but after many years of marriage, Rob and I are still very different in how and where we were raised, the foods we like or don’t like,  right down to what kind of peanut butter we like.

What has made our marriage complete and last is our mutual love for the Lord.

Grace has been a life long lesson that has made our life together sweeter as the days go by. Yes, my single friends,(and married) compatibility is important, but most important is can you stand side by side in your faith, walking in the same direction as a sojourner with the same destination? That is the question my friends,  without God’s grace, mercy and love there is nothing.

But for right now, until that completeness, we have three things to do to lead us toward that consummation: Trust steadily in God, hope unswervingly, love extravagantly. And the best of the three is love. 1 Corinthians 13:13 The Message

Can you guess who likes chunky and who likes creamy peanut butter? You can read the rest of our story in my book, Confessions of A Farmer’s Daughter.

 

Thirty Things About Us

This past week we celebrated 30 years of marriage. For reasons I cannot explain, number thirty was more significant than number twenty-five. We’ve known each other for 35 years, which seems like a long time, but in the words of a friend…

You should try 60+

In honor of 10957.3 days here are 30 things about us.

  1. We love Jesus!
  2. We love God’s Word.
  3. We love each other!!
  4. We became engaged over the phone!
  5. We hadn’t seen each other in over a year when we became engaged…but there was a lot of letter writing and phone calls…there were no cell phones then.
  6. We saw each other twice before we were married.
  7. The three girls who stood next to me during my wedding still stand by me today…yes, this one is about me.!!!
  8. Our reception was in the church basement with ham sandwiches, homemade mints and cake.
  9. We didn’t smash the cake in each other’s faces… I know, we’re boring!
  10. During our wedding an ice storm began.
  11. Our car broke down on the way to our exotic honeymoon.
  12. Our exotic honeymoon was in Des Moines, Iowa.
  13. Our parents had to pick us up from our exotic honeymoon.
  14. Husband lost the car keys, but I didn’t yell at him!
  15. Our first fight was about what the back of the car is called.
  16. I was sick on our honeymoon.
  17. A week into marriage we took a teenager to a college weekend nine hours away.
  18. Our second fight was about Bible Study.
  19. We wanted to be parents, so 16 months after we said ‘I do.’ we became Mom and Dad.
  20. Early in our marriage we spent time apart, sometimes a week at time, because of the Mister’s district responsibilities.
  21. We love Jesus!
  22. We love God’s Word!!
  23. We love to laugh…sometimes at each other.
  24. We love to sit on the couch(I sit on the couch, he reclines)after dinner watching the news, Wheel of Fortune and Jeopardy.
  25. We LOVE our kids.
  26. We LOVE our moms!!
  27. We love to read.
  28. We LOVE our Church.
  29. One our favorite things to do together is go out to eat.
  30. We love Jesus.

You can read the rest of the story in my book, Confessions of a Farmer’s Daughter.

Dreaming About A Day

June 24, 2015~~I just returned from Rochester, NY where we dropped off Lauren to catch a flight to visit her brother Justin and his wife Melissa. Yes, she is flying alone, having to make not one, but two connections before she can land in Casper. Would you expect anything different from a Gates kid? Taking off on their own? Last night Kelsey surprised us by coming home a day early, last we heard she was stuck in St. Thomas I sat down at my desk to work on something else, and began reading last year’s posts. This one is worth re-posting as I write another post about ‘the dash.’

2014~~A very long time ago I dreamed about a day.

A day like yesterday.

Twenty-five plus years ago I was a twenty something mom of two babies twenty-one months apart. A vivid memory of wanting those days to rush by so I could have a day like I had yesterday. Justin and Hannah were great babies, but I felt like I had twins. Need I say anything else? Would June 3, 2014 every be a reality? As a single college student I floundered because all I wanted to do in life was be a wife and mother. Now that I was, with a third baby on the way making our family with three under the age of four, I wondered if I had chosen the right path. I love(d) being a mom but there were days I wanted to trade in my title for something…more. Several years later Lauren is the joy of my old age as she was born in my late thirties.

The day in and day out of mothering is not for the faint of heart. To be the mom God has called you to be takes courage, perseverance and faith. Whether you stay at home as a mother, work full-time or part-time outside the home, parenting is a full-time job without many rewards you can put your hands on and feel. The trenches of motherhood are often dark, muddy and lonely wondering if the war will be won in the end. (as a side note Rob and I are watching Band of Brothers in honor of the 70th anniversary of D-day, so trenches are fresh in my mind). Trenches are where the real work is accomplished, often for long periods of time, and I often wondered if I would ever emerge, leaving the mud for good.

A day like yesterday began when on the spur of the moment I  took off for Albany to visit one of my babies who will turn 23 in a couple of weeks. Since my older three no longer live at home the times of one on one conversation are limited. We ventured into a food co-op where all the food is grown locally and freshly baked or made. Off to Trader Joes to scope out a store my daughters love, I sure hope it’s true there’s one coming to Syracuse. Lunch was at a an out of the way coffee shop where we were able to take our time, having an adult conversation. Before I turned my car in the direction of home we made a quick stop at another coffee shop where she bought me iced coffee for the road.

I really do not like the saying that is said to young moms far too often…The quote is far too cliche’ for me and does not begin to encompass all that motherhood is.

You better enjoy your kids while they are home, because you blink and they are adults.

I did enjoy them while they were little, the teen years were fun but….and the college years kept me on my knees. But the reward I spoke of earlier in this post, of emerging from the trenches, took the form of a day like yesterday. Those days do come to an end, and the sun is shining on top of the hill of motherhood with a day like yesterday possible for all moms.

So press on mom with three little ones, press on mom who is running a taxi everyday, press on mom who has two full time jobs, press on mom whose last child is making you an empty nester. Press on mom…

…a day like yesterday is in your future.

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