Intersecting Life and Faith

Steadily & Passionately(and a give away)

I often try to explain to friends who ask about my marriage with Rob. I know what I want to say but the words usually fall flat because when I say ‘he is my bestfriend’ it sounds so cliche’. I was thrilled to find the following quote in the book A Quest for Godliness.

…”The puritan ethic of marriage was to look not for a partner whom you do love passionately at this moment, but rather for one whom you can love steadily as your best friend for life, and then to proceed with God’s help to do just that.” J I Packer

We put that ethic of marriage to practice everyday, but especially today when Rob suggested we go to Panera Bread for lunch. He loves the food, but not the ambiance of a restaurant that caters to a younger generation and the gender he is not, i.e.-women of all ages. There were 11 women in line in front of us with that many more lining up behind us…yes it was a busy day here in central New York as we are enjoying clear blue sunny days and temps in the 40’s…and no snow.

Anyway, back to lunch. Rob loves the he says. While I was waiting for my lowfat strawberry smoothie he was holding down a table while he watched a riot at the soda(pop for you midwesterners)machine because the Diet Pepsi was not working. Yes, he is a funny guy, one of the reasons I love him so much, he makes me laugh. I know he loves the macaroni and cheese, but I think he goes with me to Panera because he knows I like it.  We have with God’s help proceeded to love each other steadily for the past 26 years, looking out for the interests of each other…friends for life.

So in honor of Rob’s ‘love’ for Panera I am giving away a $20 Panera gift card. Leave a comment about this post or marriage or your favorite Panera food or favorite color and you will be entered to win. I will draw a random winner the end of this week.

Give away sponsored by me. Panera has no idea who I am. Just wanted to give something away to some of my favorite people.



  1. Janet

    Hey. Sis. That is definitely a quote I will pass on to Allison in the future, no hurry though. thanks for great advice!

  2. Joan B. Fooks

    Hi Jody, I enjoy reading your blogs. There is just something special about eating soup in a bread bowl at Paneras. I especially like the broccli and cheese soup! My son often suggests that we eat there. Have a great day.

  3. Ellen

    Hmmm… Matt will actually suggest we go to Panera… such a loving husband!

  4. Terri

    Rob sounds like Dan! He tolerates a lot of things because he knows *I* love them. The food is good at Panera bread!

  5. Jody

    We have those lights this year. Big advantage, it only takes 3 lights to light up the entire tree. Yes, they are bright.

  6. Becky

    Doug and I love to find empty chairs by the Panera fireplace where we sit with bowls of hot soup on a snowy day. What a blessing!

  7. Michelle

    He is so funny! He and Joe should just go hang out for the day (Joe will go on potato soup days). Maybe he just goes at the wrong time of day!! I’m surprised he doesn’t stay for the wifi…and food. Sometimes I’ll go and do my report cards there. The men that are there usually have laptops or ipads, etc.

  8. Kim Voth

    Love this posting today! Mike and I often go to Panera now that we are “empty nesters”. We have a new one more on our side of town, so its great! We were just there Saturday evening, and with my “My panera” card we were told we could get a free drink of choice. He automatically assumed he was the one who should get it, and I jokingly kidded with him, with “why do you get it?”, and he graciously said I could have it, but I said, “no you have it!” Our men to love us in their own Panera way!

  9. Cindy

    Thanks for sharing, Jody. I’ve been convicted about this very thing in my own life… twice in the last 2 days! Here’s one incident: Dave has always preferred colored lights on our Christmas tree, and we are doing them this year. Yesterday I told him that because I love my family I am putting up with the ugly lights (they are REALLY bright), but to me they look like the circus came to Christmas– a garish monstrosity! (No offense to anyone who likes colored lights!) His response to my bad attitude? He said he thinks the colored lights look great! I still have a lot to learn!

  10. Marylou

    Jody, I really enjoyed this message on your blog. I watch your marriage from afar and see your in Love with each other grow. I do have to say though, Bob and I have the same kind of marriage. It’s been almost 45 years now, and I wouldn’t change a thing!

    Bob and I love U 2! Merry Christmas to you and your family!


  11. Luann Brunner

    Dear Jody,
    Thanks for your post today. My best friend Tom and I went to Panera last night. He went because he knew it would make me happy and I love him for it. Of the few times we do go out, I usually don’t suggest Panera because although he, like Rob, likes the food, he’s not big on the atmosphere either.
    The “best friend to walk through life” quote you shared is so well stated.
    Keep writing. I applaud you and bless you.

  12. judy gates

    Love the testimony. Rich and I are enjoying that steady and commuted relationship. Lifemates! I just wish we had Paneras. Sounds yummy.

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