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Dusty Women-Carolyn D.

The next installment of Dusty Women, bet you thought this series was done.  Several months ago I came across Titus 2 Tuesday blog posts. Inspired to do the same thing I set out to make a list of my own questions. Women who have encouraged me to be a radical follower of Jesus. Radical in the sense they love God with all the heart, mind and soul and their neighbor as themselves. They are ordinary women who love and serve an Extraordinary God. Women I want to be like so the Word of God will not be dishonored. Titus 2:5 I ask about coffee or tea and vanilla or chocolate to find out who I will be drinking coffee and eating chocolate cake with!! I wanted a catchy title other than God's Women, so I asked a friend for help and she said
what is something that defines us? Maybe not where we're from but where we're going? I always love the analogy of following Jesus so closely that you get the dust of your shepherd on you. Following in the footsteps of your Shepherd.  So you could call us Dusty Women.

I have known Carolyn D. for ten years. I count it an honor to know this quiet and humble woman. I haven't spent as much time with her as I would like because she and her husband come to church from over a half hour away. When we do get to have lunch together with our spouses, she is like a sister...we just pick up where we left off. I interviewed Carolyn a month ago via email. Her response tells you the kind of person she is, humble and transparent.

Sorry this took me over a month to do.  I have thought about my answers to your questions over and over and hoped that they would come out profoundly and awesome but they aren't.....that isn't me.  I finally realized a few minutes ago that what matters is that we give testimony to Him when asked to and hopefully bring glory to Him and not ourselves.

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Describe yourself in 5-7 words.

Lover of life; often sliding in sideways!  (I LOVE this description--Jody)

That sounds like “crazy talk” so I think I will say this: daughter, sister, His child, aunt, wife, friend.  I listed these adjectives chronologically in terms of my life (with the exception of friend.  I’ve been blessed to have friends my whole life.)  If I were to prioritize these adjectives, my hope would be to have my description look like this:  His child, wife, daughter, sister, aunt, friend.

Briefly describe how and when you were rescued from the domain of darkness and transferred into the Kingdom of God.   Colossians 1:13.

I do not remember the exact date when I accepted Jesus as my Lord and Savior.  It was summertime and I was around seven or eight years old.  My best friend had invited me to Vacation Bible School (VBS) at her church and it was during VBS one morning when I placed my faith and trust in Jesus Christ and asked him to come into my life.  Unfortunately for me, by the time I reached my late teens and early 20’s the “things of the Lord” were not of importance to me and I pretty much lived my life as I pleased.  Right after my 24th birthday, I realized I had pretty much reached the end of myself and had a huge void in my life.  It was at that time that I recommitted my life to the Lord and I have never looked back!  Although I regret those “lost years” of my late teens and early 20’s, I know that it was not the Lord who moved away from me, but instead it was me who pushed the Lord away.  He never leaves (Hebrews 13:5); He restores and redeems; His grace and mercy are amazing!

 

What encouragement would you give to a woman of any age who has found out life has not turned out how she envisioned it to be?

Two words:  Trust Him!  When I was around five years old there were three things I dreamed for my life:  to be a wife, to be a mother, and to be a school teacher.  That dream never really changed but never became reality as I had envisioned it would.

As a teenager, I had many opportunities to play mother to my two younger sisters while my mother battled severe depression.  At age 29, I had a failed first marriage and shortly thereafter, saw my parents’ marriage unravel after 40 years of marriage.  A few years later, the Lord brought a wonderful man into my life, my husband Bob.  Since that time, we have dealt with infertility, Bob’s cancer battle over the last nine years, job losses for both of us, and most recently navigating the care of aging parents. Although my life has not turned out like anything I had envisioned it to be, I have come to realize that it is okay to surrender my dreams to Him.  His plans for me are better.  Bob and I did not get to become parents, but we have been blessed with the privilege of being uncle and aunt to several wonderful nieces and nephews.  As for the school teacher dream, well, 3½ years ago the Lord led me to an administrative assistant position in the high school within the school district where we live.  I work for two principals and although I do not teach, I get to interact with students in a school setting.  For me, it is a great job (and mission field). Some of my favorite verses are found in Isaiah 43:1-3
”Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine.  When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you.  When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze.  For I am the Lord, your God….”
He has redeemed us; He will not leave us; He will bring us through whatever the situation is.  We simply have to trust Him.

What does God’s Word mean to you?

For me, God’s Word is life.  It is my daily bread.  It is comfort and guidance.  And I especially love the places where God reveals His sense of humor within His Word!

What does the Body of Christ mean to you?

I like to think of the Body of Christ as God’s word in action.  In terms of the church where I worship, LaFayette Alliance Church, the Body of Christ reveals itself as an awesome family.  We all come together with our strengths and weaknesses; sometimes bruised and broken in search of the One True God.  As a part of the body, not only should we seek to be cared for/served, but we should also seek to serve and care for others.

Coffee or Tea?

Tea.  Sweet tea and flavored iced teas!

Vanilla or Chocolate?

Chocolate.  White chocolate, dark chocolate, and then milk chocolate.  My husband will tell you that it’s one of the five basic food groups!

Dusty Women-Debbie

Several months ago I came across Titus 2 Tuesday blog posts. Inspired to do the same thing I set out to make a list of my own questions. Women who have encouraged me to be a radical follower of Jesus. Radical in the sense they love God with all the heart, mind and soul and their neighbor as themselves. They are ordinary women who love and serve an Extraordinary God. Women I want to be like so the Word of God will not be dishonored. Titus 2:5 I ask about coffee or tea and vanilla or chocolate to find out who I will be drinking coffee and eating chocolate cake with!! I wanted a catchy title other than God's Women, so I asked a friend for help and she said
what is something that defines us? Maybe not where we're from but where we're going? I always love the analogy of following Jesus so closely that you get the dust of your shepherd on you. Following in the footsteps of your Shepherd.  So you could call us Dusty Women.
I live in New York because of Debbie..well I should say her husband is responsible and God of course. Rob had sent his resume' to a church in Kingston New York 17 years ago. Allen, Debbie's husband, would not let us say no. After many months of praying and another phone call from said elder, we said yes and moved to New York. Debbie has been a faithful, loving and caring friend for 17+ years. We have both moved from the church that brought us together, but I still count her among my dear sister's in Christ. Some of my fondest memories spent with Debbie are of us sitting at her kitchen table on the farm, drinking coffee. She was the first of many friends I tried to convince I'm a friend before I'm a pastor's wife...could you introduce me as your friend first? I also convinced her by dusting furniture for her. Debbie is a brave woman...she raised 5 boys and lived to tell about it. She is now a grandmother, loving every minute of it. No picture of Debbie, but you can head over to my Facebook page and find her under Debbie Bailey.

Debbie, would you describe yourself in 5-7 words?

I love God and family.

Briefly describe how and when you were rescued from the domain of darkness and transferred into the Kingdom of God. Colossians 1:13

During a VBS in 1972, I walked forward to receive Christ as my Savior.  At that time I was a pre-teen, looking for stability in my life. My parent’s recent divorce and my mom’s change from alcoholic to God’s daughter impacted my life deeply. The pain of my childhood took years to heal; yet, God has heard this girl’s prayer for forgiveness and has amazingly brought me through many trials and setbacks as well as blessings and times of peace and contentment.  As I look back on the 40 + years since that day, I can only see how God has kept me and how He has continued to sanctify me. Over and over God has proven Himself faithful to this, at times,unfaithful girl.

What do you enjoy about being a mother?

The calling of motherhood has been a means for my sanctification. So many times God would bring to mind the very words I spoke to my children and He would gently remind me of the very issue I was dealing with as I was disciplining one of my sons.This culminated in releasing my sons as they became young men, making their own ways.Through the tears, I was reminded that my commitment to raise my sons was my commitment, not theirs.  God would deal with them as His children, just as He continued to mold me into His beloved. I often found it interesting that my husband did not necessarily share my shaky faith in regards to our sons. Allen would often remind me of the truth of the matter, making me wonder, why Allen was so practical, when I was having pity party. God knew what He was doing when He joined us together.

What do you enjoy about being a grandmother?

Another one of God’s blessing. The best part about growing old is…. GRANDCHILDREN! The worst part is living so far away from them.

What encouragement would you give to a young mom struggling to make it through the day?

No matter how busy your day, squeeze in time (5-10 minutes, if that is all you have) to recharge your batteries. Spending time alone reading your Bible or doing something you enjoy. And put into your budget, money for you & your husband to spend time together. There have been times in our marriage that we would visit McD’s for a coffee before or after our weekly grocery trip. It is possible to save for a weekend away by planning & saving just a few dollars a week. An empty nester?  Let God plan those empty hours. I have always been amazed by who or what God brings into my life. Our children need us in a much different way now, and in our case, God has brought us 4 beautiful daughters-in-love (Thanks, Jody for this!).  And now 7 grandchildren.

What does God's Word mean to you?

God’s Word is Truth. I know I can believe what I read in the Bible when all seems to be falling down around me. If God’s Word says I will provide all your needs (IT DOES SAY ALL!), then even when the cupboard is bare, I can trust him.  God’s Word has so much for us, spending time reading; meditating, memorizing and sharing will build those spiritual muscles. Can you tell I get excited about God’s Word?

What does the body of Christ mean to you?

I can not put into words the countless times God has worked with and through the Body of Christ to minister to me and our family. For me, the Body is as necessary as breathing. But God has also made us a part of the body of Christ and He has many things for us to do. My husband & I were members of our local body for just a few years, yet one of the elders asked if I would be willing to chair the committee for their 150th anniversary. As one of the newer members, I was given the task to put together a celebration of God’s faithfulness. God never meant to have us sit on shelf (or in our pew week after week)!  Listen carefully, He will instruct you in the way He has for you.

Coffee or tea?

Yes, I am very much a mood eater (I have had to train myself to eat good food). So I like my coffee in the morning, iced, and flavored, but I like a cup of tea at times as well.  And nothing beats a tea party with the granddaughters.

Chocolate or Vanilla?

Yes, see above. But added to that vanilla ice cream and only dark (the darker the better) chocolate! Read the series Dusty Women here.

Dusty Women-Judy

Several months ago I came across Titus 2 Tuesday blog posts. Inspired to do the same thing I set out to make a list of my own questions. Women who have encouraged me to be a radical follower of Jesus. Radical in the sense they love God with all the heart, mind and soul and their neighbor as themselves. They are ordinary women who love and serve an Extraordinary God. Women I want to be like so the Word of God will not be dishonored. Titus 2:5 I wanted a catchy title other than God's Women, so I asked a friend for help and she said
what is something that defines us? Maybe not where we're from but where we're going? I always love the analogy of following Jesus so closely that you get the dust of your shepherd on you. Following in the footsteps of your Shepherd.  So you could call us Dusty Women.
I love the fact that she said we need to be defined by where we're going not where we've been. (Philippians 3:13-14) Judy is my sister-in-love, the wife of Rob's brother Rick. I wrote about her in the post Joy & Charlie. Judy lives with her family in Arizona, so we don't see each other very often. She is among those when I do see them, we just pick up where we left off, in person or on the phone.

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Judy, would you describe yourself in 5-7 words?

Profoundly optimistic, playful, positive and possibly immature.

Briefly describe how and when you were rescued from the domain of darkness and transferred into the Kingdom of God. Colossians 1:13

My first trip to the alter was at a Billy Graham movie at the age of 11. I recommitted my life at the age of 20. I had a dream where I was flying. As I was landing, I suddenly was looking at my sleeping body in bed. When I opened my eyes I saw a figure looking out the basement window in my room and voice that asked "If I come for you today are you ready?"  I knew I was not as I was living a very worldly, undisicplined life. I began searching for the answer. It would be a couple of weeks and several churches later when I attended a church where I heard the invitation to recommit my life. I thank Pastor Jeff Hayes for his gentle spirit and bold words.

What do you enjoy about being a mother?

Watching my son enjoy his life and reach his potential. He is the most amazing young man. I really want to be more like him.

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 What encouragement would you give to a young mom struggling to make it through the day.

Lower your expectations! So much of our view of failure is based on our unrealistic expectations. We want to be June Cleaver (historical perfect mom for those who don't know her). The real truth is June was NOT REAL. She only wore a dress and acted nice at her JOB. She went home to a messy house, yelling kids and was exhausted. I think identifying what has greatest value to eternity, that is the list to work on. That might mean spending more time at Jesus feet, doing crafts with he kids, watching television with the husband even though there are 4000 other things you can think of to do. When I perfect this I will write a book.

What does God's Word mean to you?

It is hope, promise and above all the explanation for all that is in the master plan. Life does not always happen the way we expect it to, we don't understand. We are on this huge road trip but we can not see the details of each turn until the exact moment we need to. We really cant see the entire trip at all. His word gives us a road map for the final work. We stay on course we will arrive at the destination, whole and on time.

What does the Body of Christ mean to you? 

It is the completed family. We are in pieces, millions of broken pieces. God fits us together perfectly so we are able to do all we are intended to.  We each have a specific purpose and function individually but when we are together we fill in each others cracks, we become whole, our vessel is able to 'hold water'.

Coffee or Tea? 

COFFEE, I am just sayin. I like plain, black, rich coffee that is not bitter and that does not leave an after taste.

Vanilla or Chocolate?

Yes. 🙂 I LOVE chocolate, my favorite being white chocolate. Dark or mint following a tie for second. You  can read about other dusty women here.