This is one of my favorite posts written two years ago. We have been married almost 28 years and have known each other since 1980. As different as we are God brought us together to glorify Him in marriage...to show us that we are two sinners that need the gospel for our marriage every single day. Who do you think prefers to go barefoot?
I've asked my dear hubby several times over the years how we ever got together? Always wearing shoes or going barefoot was the cause for the question again recently. You can tell me who you think loves to go barefoot!
This is a short list of our differences. None of them have ever been a deal breaker...because of our common love of Jesus and our service to Him. As he was preaching today I thought I am the luckiest girl in the world...he is the best. Lest you think it has been easy...that will have to wait for another post.
He makes me laugh most days...
In fact he said to me over the weekend he wonders what our family of woodchucks do when they scamper under our shed when we pull in the driveway.
Do they chat? do they get together and talk about the humans living in the big white house? and proceeded to ask me if I wondered about them too.
Note to husband...you should probably watch what you say to me, some conversations just may end up here!
I also heard the word 'wedded bliss' this week. I just want to be married were her exact words. Not sure if I spelled it right and not sure what wedded bliss looks like but I knew what she meant.
As this list shows our many differences and working them out together, I would say wedded bliss means dying to self and seeking first God's Kingdom.
City Boy-Farm Girl
White Bread-100 % Wheat Bread
Plain Cheeseburger-Big Mac
Box Brownies-Homemade Chocolate Cake
Inside Reading in a recliner -Outside Reading sitting in deck furniture
Turn Heat Up-Turn Heat Down
Always has shoes on-Loves to go barefoot
Tomorrow( or today for those reading on November 9) Rob and I will celebrate 27 years of marriage. Each year God gives us to be together we remember and celebrate...
...if you really knew how very different we are, it is a reason to celebrate.
It is a reason to remember because life is too short to take our spouses for granted believing he/she will be there when we wake up in the morning. I am reminded on a daily basis, i.e Hurricane Sandy, or the diagnosis of cancer and the spouse is gone in 16 days. Or the leukemia diagnosis of a young child. In our line of work life and death are daily reminders. Anyway, I have written about my beloved husband on several occasions on this blog. What follows is one that still hits home for me.
I have told Rob many times...I've NEVER wanted to be married to anyone else, I DON'T think of anyone else and I will ALWAYS be his wife until God takes us to Himself.
Ohhhhhhh...there are days...
but I am his and he is mine and now it has been written for the whole world to see.
HAPPY ANNIVERSARY ROB!! I LOVE YOU!!!
(Written in 2010)
As a little girl I would play this silly game, picking a petal off a flower as I repeated...
"he loves me, he loves me not".
As I think about it today I wonder where did that game come from? and what does it mean?
Sad to say, I have played that same game in my head more times than I like to count. We are approaching our 25th wedding anniversary and far too many times I have insisted he love ME the way I want to be loved. How SELFISH is that?
Far too many years I have knelt at the altar of ROMANCE.
Before I continue this is not a post disregarding romance or my definition of it. So hang in there with me. I love flowers, intimate dinners, vacations without kids as much as the next person. But I've been fooled into thinking my husband should...
no I've demanded he do this, this and this and then I will KNOW he loves me. Again, SELFISH!
I have dreamt of many things I wish he would do. My heart has longed for all my definitions of romance and yes I have sinned to get MY way. And when that happens...when I sin to get what I think I should have...an idol has been constructed in my heart.
I have for too long defined my marriage by the worlds standards.
Today and everyday I tell myself
- He loves God and His Word supremely.
- He loves me, I have never had to worry he may love another.
- He loves his children with all his heart.
- He encourages me in my walk with the Lord, to serve God in how I believe He has called me
- He holds down the fort when I make my many trips to Iowa
- He cooks when I don't feel well
The list could go on and on...
He recently bought me a beautiful card and perfume for no reason and we spend evenings together watching movies he thinks I will like. He is always looking out for me and my best interests...He isn't perfect, but God has given him to me and that is enough.