She sat on the end of the bench most games collecting splinters. Most games I joined her as we watched the first string girls basketball team play. We rode the bench together our junior year and had the best time that winter. We were the best of friends in high school.
Going our separate ways after high school graduation, she to a big university, me to Bible college. We had dinner the summer after college graduation. Over pizza, she told me the high school rumors were true. I panicked and fled….
and did not love.
Over 25+ years I gave her much thought, wondering how she was and what she was doing. I went on my merry way, raising a family, ministering along side my husband, but not forgetting her…and remembering I had
failed to love.
She and I met up not long ago, her first question was
Why did you leave?
I was speechless, but found my words to say
how sorry I was
would you forgive me?
could we start over?
Over enchiladas and tacos we began again. I tried to say we could be friends, good friends in fact, all the while not condoning or approving of the way she had chosen to live her life. We hugged, I went back to my merry life, she to her lonely life.
Wanting to see me more than I was willing to give…
…I failed again to love
I don’t live with many regrets. But there is one…this one…failing to love someone who is not like me.
Looking for verses that would highlight this post I found What Does the Bible Say About Love?
I haven’t just failed, I’m giving myself a Big FAT F!
…praying God will bring us together again.
I took a Friendship survey yesterday. Since I have a hard time remembering sometimes how I answer questions I need to put my answers in a place I can find them, which is here, which means you will be reading this post, but it is more for me to look back on.
Yes, a journal would work, but then I have to dig through them. Friendship is very important to me, I love my friends and God has blessed me with many women who consider me their friend.
I have written on the subject, but forgot what category I put it under. See…I’m forgetful. Guess it’s time to make a friendship category. Here are my answers…you may be surprised by some of my answers and if you want clarification on why I answered the way I did I would love to chat with you about…friendship. I wrote my answers rather quickly…it was late,there were still some late night chores to do, and I wanted to finish before bed, so I just answered the questions like taking a test.
- What does a close friendship look like? A close friendship is two people who are interested in each other’s lives. it is two-sided.
- What are the main characteristics of a healthy friendship? Honesty, integrity, and transparency are very important characteristics of a healthy friendship. I can be “me” and not worry if my hair is all over the place, my makeup is still in the bag, or if the bathroom is clean if they come to the door un-announced.
- How many close friends do you have? God has blessed me with many close friends. Narrowing it down though to 4-5, like Jesus, he had an inner circle of three.
- How many friends can you depend on to ‘speak truth into your life’? I can depend on 2-3 to speak truth into my life
- What elements lead to a broken friendship? Lack of communication, one-sided communication, gossip, lying, gossip, not making time to spend time with each other, gossip.
- How important are your friendships? Many years ago girlfriends had taken the place of the Lord in my life. Friendship had become an idol and God in His infinite wisdom and care for me removed everyone I was close to by moving us away from family and friends. People had a hold on my heart, I had put people where Jesus was supposed to be, at the center of my life. I love people and having friends, but they are no longer first in my life.
- Do you struggle with loneliness? Yes, I have struggled with loneliness most of my adult life, not as much though in the past couple of years.
Is friendship important to you? How would you answer these questions? You can head over to Kimberly Wagner where she is discussing the topics of friendship and loneliness.
Would love to chat with you my friends on any topic!! Happy Thursday.
This is one of my favorite posts written two years ago. We have been married almost 28 years and have known each other since 1980. As different as we are God brought us together to glorify Him in marriage…to show us that we are two sinners that need the gospel for our marriage every single day. Who do you think prefers to go barefoot?
I’ve asked my dear hubby several times over the years how we ever got together? Always wearing shoes or going barefoot was the cause for the question again recently. You can tell me who you think loves to go barefoot!
This is a short list of our differences. None of them have ever been a deal breaker…because of our common love of Jesus and our service to Him. As he was preaching today I thought I am the luckiest girl in the world…he is the best. Lest you think it has been easy…that will have to wait for another post.
He makes me laugh most days…
In fact he said to me over the weekend he wonders what our family of woodchucks do when they scamper under our shed when we pull in the driveway.
Do they chat? do they get together and talk about the humans living in the big white house? and proceeded to ask me if I wondered about them too.
Note to husband…you should probably watch what you say to me, some conversations just may end up here!
I also heard the word ‘wedded bliss’ this week. I just want to be married were her exact words. Not sure if I spelled it right and not sure what wedded bliss looks like but I knew what she meant.
As this list shows our many differences and working them out together, I would say wedded bliss means dying to self and seeking first God’s Kingdom.
City Boy-Farm Girl
White Bread-100 % Wheat Bread
Plain Cheeseburger-Big Mac
Box Brownies-Homemade Chocolate Cake
Inside Reading in a recliner -Outside Reading sitting in deck furniture
Turn Heat Up-Turn Heat Down
Always has shoes on-Loves to go barefoot