Letting Go of a Hand

August for most of the United States, and those who live in New York, September is a
kids leavin moms month...
I can still see Lauren looking out the window of the bus years ago as the bus chugged up the hill to the next stop. This isn't Lauren, but it is any child who goes to school for the first time. This will be the first year Lauren will not be getting on the bus the first day of school. Or going to public school. This week, as school starts for our district I won't be sending anyone that direction.  But there is still a sense of letting go and loosening my grip. I had to loosen my grip on Justin as he went to boot camp many years ago, and again several years later when he was deployed to Iraq. My older daughters are have been out of the nest for many years. There's been a lot of experience of watching the backs of my kids as they walk away to the next adventure.
If there was one thing I would pass along  now that I'm crackerjack at raising kids, haha, I would say, let them go.   Kids grow up and leave. Which should be our goal as parents, right? Unless you want them living in your basement well into their adult years. Whether it is the school bus, their first overnight at friends, watching them be wheeled into an operating room, or watching them pull out of the driveway with the family car for the first time, there are so many days and nights of watching the back of their heads.
I've learned I can't control much...if anything. But I love and trust God so much that I know He is watching and He is in control...so I pray. I also have come to understand we have to let them go. Let go of them literally and let go of what we think the future holds for them. Let go of your dreams for them and let them dream dreams of their own. Let go, move forward, pray for them and encourage them in what they believe is the path they should follow. Will there be failure? Yes. Will there be hurts and disappointments? Yes. Life will happen and life will not always be fair, but pray God will be with them in all of this and in the journey they are taking.
Do all you can to love them no matter what, pray for them day in and day out. Love them some more, listen when they are telling you for the umpteenth time what happened today and love them again. Eventually, they will turn around to see  you're still there and will invite you along for the ride.  

One thought on “Letting Go of a Hand”

  1. Very nicely said. I would also add that it is heart warming to see your adult children watch out for one another and know that they are praying for each other. I think at that point you realize as a parent you must have done something right.

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