A simple friend has never seen you cry. A real friend has shoulders soggy from your tears. A simple friend doesn't know your parents' first name. A real friend has their phone numbers in her address book. A simple friend brings food to your party. A real friend comes early to help you cook and stays late to help you clean up. A simple friend hates it when you call after she has gone to bed. A real friend asks you why you took so long to call. A simple friend seeks to talk with you about your problems. A real friend seeks to help you with your problems. A simple friend wonders about your romantic history. A real friend could blackmail you with it. A simple friend, when visiting, acts like a guest. A real friend opens your refrigerator and helps herself. A simple friend thinks the friendship is over when you have an argument. A real friend knows that it's not a friendship until after you've had an fight (or disagreement). A simple friend expects you to always be there for them. A real friend expects to always be there for you!
Don't remember where I found this, I certainly didn't write it, but after reading The Girlfriends Guide Book-Navigating Female Friendship by Marian Jordan, I've been giving a lot of thought to friendship. I will be writing about this book in the near future.