As The Parsonage Turns

Lord, What do You Want?

The posts from I Take Thee have been born out of a desire to share my marriage journey, praying there are many, many more years with the one God gave me.  But I've also given a lot of thought to Titus 2:3-5 over the course of 15+ years as I've implemented a Heart to Heart ministry in two of our churches. I have always read those verses from the approach of the older woman. What is the older woman to teach?
Older women are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good, so that they may encourage the young women to love their husband, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands so that the word of God will not be dishonored. (New American Standard Bible)
Here we have Paul writing to Titus in how women are to behave and what their primary responsibilities are, the day to day care of our family and homes.  It is the role of the older woman to teach the younger women, the teaching of what godly behavior looks like and the roles God has given to women. As women we wrongly judge and compare ourselves to how raising a family and taking care of our homes should look like. I am the first to say it looks different for every family and how that is done is between the husband and wife and God. As a college student I struggled every semester in trying to "find" God's will. What in the world did He want me to do? After each semester ended I was not returning. It was one of my greatest struggles. I prayed I would someday be a wife and mother, loving my husband and children, but as a single woman what did He want? These are important to God...
  • how to be reverent in behavior...all the translations use this phrase, the definition and understanding of this phrase will be for another post
  • not to be a malicious gossip,
  • to be sensible, pure, kind and self-controlled
  • learn what is good so I could teach it to others someday
  • and eventually, if God willed, to loving and submitting to  my husband and loving my children if He gives them to me
It does irk me, yes it's a word, the first thing many women think about regarding this passage is whether we should be stay at home moms. I want to be known as a Christ centered, loving God's Word, and loving others rather than a SAHM. That role may someday change, but my identity in Christ NEVER will. How about we start there rather than where a woman works? Can you tell I get irked?  🙂
Working at home does not prohibit working outside the home (cf. Prov. 31:16, 18, 24) but it does indicate that Paul expects wives to carry the primary responsibility for the day-to-day care of their homes and children. Yet this is to be done while being submissive to their own husbands, supporting their husbands’ leadership role in the family. (ESV note)
Are you single, married, divorced, widowed? This list is for all of us. On another note, I am excited to have a very relaxing holiday weekend drinking coffee with friends, making my first recipe of Perfect Iced Coffee so my daughters don't have to spend their hard earned $$$ at Mickey D's, planting flowers, barbecuing, going to church to hear Part 2 of God's Word and Same-Sex Marriage,  and of course our small town parade on Monday morning remembering and honoring those who have fought for our freedom. Wishing all of you a wonderful Memorial Day weekend enjoying time with whomever God puts in your path. A must read as summer begins...Summers Are for Seeking Christ.

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